Well, things are pretty busy this month. Our community decided to have our traditional christmas party a week earlier. We all met last Saturday, Dec 16th at 7pm and had our traditional potluck style.
My son Miguel has been crying the whole party. I think he is not used to having so many people around. I am just laughing about it at first. Here's a clip to prove what I am saying.
He refused to play with other kids and prefers to play alone. Then he would tag my hand and would insist I sit beside him while he plays.
Is this just a stage? Now, Im excited that his cousins are coming over because that way he'll get used to having other kids around the house. Takot ba sya sa tao?
Monday, December 18, 2006
Monday, December 11, 2006
Finals
Now I am on my last leg. Who would have thought that I would finish this semester? (Who even thought I would enroll in fall 2006? ;))Even I doubted myself. But now, I have finished my final exams on two subjects, Nutrition & Dev. Psych. I will still have to deal with two more tomorrow. I just cant wait to have this done and over with.
Some good news, my sister in law, together with her kids & hubby are coming this 29th and we will all be spending our New Year's Eve on Disneyworld & Seaworld . It would surely be a memorable vacation. Our savings will be slightly depleted but I am sure memories will be priceless. It will be my son's first trip to Disney and I am so excited. I have shopped for his clothes so as to make sure he will be comfortable, he wont be cold and the like.
Funny thing is, someone offered (a.k.a. xgf)her house for us to stay. We called her to ask for discounted tickets (too bad none). H preferred that we get our own place. That way , we could all do our thing and besides, we are 6 adults and 3 kids. Talk about big family ei.. and her house is about 45 mins drive to Disney. Thanks to hotels.com, I think I have found a perfect place to stay.
Hmmm.. gotta study! Bye for now..
Some good news, my sister in law, together with her kids & hubby are coming this 29th and we will all be spending our New Year's Eve on Disneyworld & Seaworld . It would surely be a memorable vacation. Our savings will be slightly depleted but I am sure memories will be priceless. It will be my son's first trip to Disney and I am so excited. I have shopped for his clothes so as to make sure he will be comfortable, he wont be cold and the like.
Funny thing is, someone offered (a.k.a. xgf)her house for us to stay. We called her to ask for discounted tickets (too bad none). H preferred that we get our own place. That way , we could all do our thing and besides, we are 6 adults and 3 kids. Talk about big family ei.. and her house is about 45 mins drive to Disney. Thanks to hotels.com, I think I have found a perfect place to stay.
Hmmm.. gotta study! Bye for now..
Tuesday, December 05, 2006
:(
There has not been a day that I havent cried, shed a tear or two. It would just strike me at an unknown time, when Im driving, in the parking lot, in the restroom, in my classroom, in my bed. Anywhere, anytime. It could be at 3am, at 7pm, or 6am. I couldnt describe my feelings. It would be a tear which would then be a sob. It would be a sad thought then an angry thought. I really dont know.
I would call my siblings in the Philippines and I was hoping my dad would pick up the phone. I would look at his text messages and feel melancholic.
I just miss my dad.
I would call my siblings in the Philippines and I was hoping my dad would pick up the phone. I would look at his text messages and feel melancholic.
I just miss my dad.
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
2 weeks
What? Finals will be in 2 weeks, how time flies. I havent even started reading Chapter1 yet. (joke)
I did not imagine going back to school would be that hard and challenging yet it is fun. Seriously, Im enjoying it. At first, I lovingly joked my hubs that I have plans of changing my career (from being a bank officer to a RN) I asked him his ideas on what if I go back to school and earn a degree in the medical field..err..nursing. Never mind if I have hematophobia but I know I just want to try and see for myself. (Besides, that's a very good excuse of letting me out of the house for 3 hours a day) Surprisingly, hubs thought it was a very brilliant idea and so I did my thing last May. I had to pass the entrance exams, have my grades evaluated ( our grading system has to match their sytem here like 90 is to A etc. ) I guess that left me with no choice but to go back to school.
Quizzes, presentations, hmmm..it scares me at first but Im getting used to it.
I guess being a student is not that bad. After all, we are students of this thing called life.
Meantime, I better start reading Chapter1.
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Thanks to all those who left me a note regarding my dad. I still have crying moments, when I'm driving, when Im in the parking lot, when Im home, when Im in the grocery store etc. I know this is all a part of it. Knowing you're praying for me really helps. I truly appreciate it.
I did not imagine going back to school would be that hard and challenging yet it is fun. Seriously, Im enjoying it. At first, I lovingly joked my hubs that I have plans of changing my career (from being a bank officer to a RN) I asked him his ideas on what if I go back to school and earn a degree in the medical field..err..nursing. Never mind if I have hematophobia but I know I just want to try and see for myself. (Besides, that's a very good excuse of letting me out of the house for 3 hours a day) Surprisingly, hubs thought it was a very brilliant idea and so I did my thing last May. I had to pass the entrance exams, have my grades evaluated ( our grading system has to match their sytem here like 90 is to A etc. ) I guess that left me with no choice but to go back to school.
Quizzes, presentations, hmmm..it scares me at first but Im getting used to it.
I guess being a student is not that bad. After all, we are students of this thing called life.
Meantime, I better start reading Chapter1.
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Thanks to all those who left me a note regarding my dad. I still have crying moments, when I'm driving, when Im in the parking lot, when Im home, when Im in the grocery store etc. I know this is all a part of it. Knowing you're praying for me really helps. I truly appreciate it.
Monday, October 23, 2006
My dear dad
Warning : This is very sad. I just have to write now as I am again teary eyed.
This morning, I had a dream about my dad. In my dream, I was home when the phone rang. I picked it up. And on the other line was dad's voice, giving me instructions on a certain check, that it has to be deposited. I just cried..hearing him. I asked him how he was doing..and then the line was cut. And he was gone. And I cried, cried so hard.
Too bad I can't call him when I woke up. He passed away last September. Very untimely, as we were planning for his vacation here that month.
The last text message I got from him was during my birthday, where he wished me a wonderful year ahead and of course, his desire to be with his only grandchild M. He is a proud "lolo". During our vacation last April-May, he was so crazy with his "apo". When we left the Philippines, our phone calls would not be complete without him having to talk to M. My son would talk back in his goo goo gaa gaa voice, and some shrieks in between. It makes me happy in a way that at least Dad got to be with his grandson physically, even for just 6 weeks.
So when he was confined in the hospital last week of September, I had the urge to go home immediately. I left H and my baby M and flew home. That was the longest flight I ever took continously praying that Dad's gonna be ok and that we will all get through this. But then I was late. His liver failed and he had been revived twice but that was just it. Dad expired at 1030pm Friday night when my plane landed at 1010pm. At the airport, my cousins were unusually quiet. Not until I reached the hospital that my sister relayed the news. That was the saddest moment of my life. Ugh..
Good thing H and M followed me after 3 days. It was not a good flight for H (travelling alone with an 18 month old baby for 18 hours is unthinkable) but he managed to be with me. We stayed for 2 weeks in the Philippines. I got the chance to be with relatives & family & friends. And then, it was time to go back.
Until now, I still cry. I would have moments of crying when I start to think of him. My baby would look at me and that would make me cry more. I just miss my dad. I truly miss him.
I find peace in knowing that he is now with the Lord. I do pray that he is happy now that he is reunited with my mom and with God.
But still, I cant stop crying...
This morning, I had a dream about my dad. In my dream, I was home when the phone rang. I picked it up. And on the other line was dad's voice, giving me instructions on a certain check, that it has to be deposited. I just cried..hearing him. I asked him how he was doing..and then the line was cut. And he was gone. And I cried, cried so hard.
Too bad I can't call him when I woke up. He passed away last September. Very untimely, as we were planning for his vacation here that month.
The last text message I got from him was during my birthday, where he wished me a wonderful year ahead and of course, his desire to be with his only grandchild M. He is a proud "lolo". During our vacation last April-May, he was so crazy with his "apo". When we left the Philippines, our phone calls would not be complete without him having to talk to M. My son would talk back in his goo goo gaa gaa voice, and some shrieks in between. It makes me happy in a way that at least Dad got to be with his grandson physically, even for just 6 weeks.
So when he was confined in the hospital last week of September, I had the urge to go home immediately. I left H and my baby M and flew home. That was the longest flight I ever took continously praying that Dad's gonna be ok and that we will all get through this. But then I was late. His liver failed and he had been revived twice but that was just it. Dad expired at 1030pm Friday night when my plane landed at 1010pm. At the airport, my cousins were unusually quiet. Not until I reached the hospital that my sister relayed the news. That was the saddest moment of my life. Ugh..
Good thing H and M followed me after 3 days. It was not a good flight for H (travelling alone with an 18 month old baby for 18 hours is unthinkable) but he managed to be with me. We stayed for 2 weeks in the Philippines. I got the chance to be with relatives & family & friends. And then, it was time to go back.
Until now, I still cry. I would have moments of crying when I start to think of him. My baby would look at me and that would make me cry more. I just miss my dad. I truly miss him.
I find peace in knowing that he is now with the Lord. I do pray that he is happy now that he is reunited with my mom and with God.
But still, I cant stop crying...
Thursday, August 10, 2006
i need to rest
Hello everyone. I have neglected this blog for sooo long. Whoever thought that the housechores are endless, that being at stay at home mom means being on call 24x7. Sometimes I wish I have work, maybe then I could rest (or have the right to) But then again..I dont want to miss his growing up moments. I get to see him grow right before my very eyes. It's a different fulfillment.
Last Saturday, I left my son to a sitter just to have that much needed rest. I ended up doing more, cleaning the house, helping hubs with his project (storage), and before I knew it, it's time to pick him up from his nanny. Ang bilis ng oras!
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I got this email from a high school friend and I'm reprinting it. Funny is I have this book, "His need Her needs" collecting dust in my library. It was a wedding gift in 2003. I started to browse it and discovered a very sweet note from C. "honeymoon forever?" really..
Anyways, here it goes. It's a long email though. But it's worth the read.
How can a couple prevent adultery?
Dr. Willard Harley in his book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage provides some answers. He has found that marriages that fail to meet a spouse's needs are more vulnerable to an extramarital affair. Often the failure of men and women to meet each other's needs is due to a lack of knowledge rather than a selfish unwillingness to be considerate. Meeting these needs is critically important because in marriages that fail to meet needs, it is striking and alarming how consistently married people seek to satisfy their unmet needs through an extramarital affair. If any of a spouse's five basic needs goes unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair.
First, let's look at the five needs of a wife. The first need is for affection. To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and approval. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: (1) I'll take care of you and protect you; (2) I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you; (3) I think you've done a good job, and I'm so proud of you.
Men need to understand how strongly women need these affirmations. For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them. A hug can communicate all of the affirmations of the previous paragraph. But, affection can be shown in many ways such as: kisses, cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone calls…there are a thousand ways to say "I love you." From a woman's point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man.
The second need is conversation. Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to them; they need lots of two-way conversation. In their dating life prior to marriage, most couples spent time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn't be dropped after the wedding. When two people get married, each partner has a right to expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed during courtship to continue after the wedding. The man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an inside track to her heart.
The third need is honesty and openness. A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security is the common thread woven through all of a woman's five basic needs. If a husband does not keep up honest and open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and eventually destroys her security. To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her accurate information about his past, the present, and the future. If she can't trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance; instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him.
Financial commitment is a fourth need a wife experiences. She needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs financial support. No matter how successful a career a woman might have, she usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow her to feel supported and to feel cared for.
The fifth need is family commitment. A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a family commitment. The vast majority of women who get married have a powerful instinct to create a home and have children. Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and educational development of their children.
Preventing Adultery: His Needs Now, let's look at the five needs husbands have.
The first is sexual fulfillment . The typical wife doesn't understand her husband's deep need for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. But these two ingredients can work very closely together in a happy, fulfilled marriage. Sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough affection.
The second need for a man is recreational companionship. He needs her to be his playmate. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in pursuing their interests. They find themselve hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching sports and movies they would never have chosen on their own. After marriage wives often try to interest their husbands in activities more to their own liking. If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands to continue their recreational activities without them. But this option is very dangerous to a marriage, because men place surprising importance on having their wives as recreational companions. Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband.
A husband's third need is an attractive spouse. A man needs a wife who looks good to him. Dr. Harley states that in sexual relationships most men find it nearly impossible to appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone--there must be more. A man's need for physical attractiveness in a mate is profound.
The fourth need for a man is domestic support. He needs peace and quiet. So deep is a husband's need for domestic support from his wife that he often fantasizes about how she will greet him lovingly and pleasantly at the door, about well-behaved children who likewise act glad to see him and welcome him to the comfort of a well-maintained home. The fantasy continues as his wife urges him to sit down and relax before taking part in a tasty dinner. Later the family goes out for an evening stroll, and he returns to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss. Then he and his wife relax, talk together, and perhaps watch a little television until they retire at a reasonable hour to love each other. Wives may chuckle at this scenario, but this vision is quite common in the fantasy lives of many men. The male need for his wife to "take care of things"--especially him--is widespread, persistent, and deep.
The fifth need is admiration. He needs her to be proud of him. Wives need to learn how to express the admiration they already feel for their husbands instead of pressuring them to greater achievements. Honest admiration is a great motivator for men. When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. If any of a spouse's five basic needs go unmet, that person becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair. Therefore, the best way to prevent adultery is to meet the needs of your spouse.
"You do not marry someone who you CAN live with, you marry someone who you CANNOT live without."
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I do hope that I get to post something real soon. Happy weekend!
Last Saturday, I left my son to a sitter just to have that much needed rest. I ended up doing more, cleaning the house, helping hubs with his project (storage), and before I knew it, it's time to pick him up from his nanny. Ang bilis ng oras!
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I got this email from a high school friend and I'm reprinting it. Funny is I have this book, "His need Her needs" collecting dust in my library. It was a wedding gift in 2003. I started to browse it and discovered a very sweet note from C. "honeymoon forever?" really..
Anyways, here it goes. It's a long email though. But it's worth the read.
How can a couple prevent adultery?
Dr. Willard Harley in his book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage provides some answers. He has found that marriages that fail to meet a spouse's needs are more vulnerable to an extramarital affair. Often the failure of men and women to meet each other's needs is due to a lack of knowledge rather than a selfish unwillingness to be considerate. Meeting these needs is critically important because in marriages that fail to meet needs, it is striking and alarming how consistently married people seek to satisfy their unmet needs through an extramarital affair. If any of a spouse's five basic needs goes unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair.
First, let's look at the five needs of a wife. The first need is for affection. To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and approval. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: (1) I'll take care of you and protect you; (2) I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you; (3) I think you've done a good job, and I'm so proud of you.
Men need to understand how strongly women need these affirmations. For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them. A hug can communicate all of the affirmations of the previous paragraph. But, affection can be shown in many ways such as: kisses, cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone calls…there are a thousand ways to say "I love you." From a woman's point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man.
The second need is conversation. Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to them; they need lots of two-way conversation. In their dating life prior to marriage, most couples spent time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn't be dropped after the wedding. When two people get married, each partner has a right to expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed during courtship to continue after the wedding. The man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an inside track to her heart.
The third need is honesty and openness. A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security is the common thread woven through all of a woman's five basic needs. If a husband does not keep up honest and open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and eventually destroys her security. To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her accurate information about his past, the present, and the future. If she can't trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance; instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him.
Financial commitment is a fourth need a wife experiences. She needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs financial support. No matter how successful a career a woman might have, she usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow her to feel supported and to feel cared for.
The fifth need is family commitment. A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a family commitment. The vast majority of women who get married have a powerful instinct to create a home and have children. Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and educational development of their children.
Preventing Adultery: His Needs Now, let's look at the five needs husbands have.
The first is sexual fulfillment . The typical wife doesn't understand her husband's deep need for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. But these two ingredients can work very closely together in a happy, fulfilled marriage. Sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough affection.
The second need for a man is recreational companionship. He needs her to be his playmate. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in pursuing their interests. They find themselve hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching sports and movies they would never have chosen on their own. After marriage wives often try to interest their husbands in activities more to their own liking. If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands to continue their recreational activities without them. But this option is very dangerous to a marriage, because men place surprising importance on having their wives as recreational companions. Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband.
A husband's third need is an attractive spouse. A man needs a wife who looks good to him. Dr. Harley states that in sexual relationships most men find it nearly impossible to appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone--there must be more. A man's need for physical attractiveness in a mate is profound.
The fourth need for a man is domestic support. He needs peace and quiet. So deep is a husband's need for domestic support from his wife that he often fantasizes about how she will greet him lovingly and pleasantly at the door, about well-behaved children who likewise act glad to see him and welcome him to the comfort of a well-maintained home. The fantasy continues as his wife urges him to sit down and relax before taking part in a tasty dinner. Later the family goes out for an evening stroll, and he returns to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss. Then he and his wife relax, talk together, and perhaps watch a little television until they retire at a reasonable hour to love each other. Wives may chuckle at this scenario, but this vision is quite common in the fantasy lives of many men. The male need for his wife to "take care of things"--especially him--is widespread, persistent, and deep.
The fifth need is admiration. He needs her to be proud of him. Wives need to learn how to express the admiration they already feel for their husbands instead of pressuring them to greater achievements. Honest admiration is a great motivator for men. When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level. If any of a spouse's five basic needs go unmet, that person becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair. Therefore, the best way to prevent adultery is to meet the needs of your spouse.
"You do not marry someone who you CAN live with, you marry someone who you CANNOT live without."
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I do hope that I get to post something real soon. Happy weekend!
Saturday, June 03, 2006
Thursday, March 30, 2006
leaving on a jet plane
Hi everyone!
I will be having my 1st plane ride to the Philippines tomorrow. A week after, Ill be celebrating my 1st birthday ! Mom and Dad are really excited! My Lolos and Lolas are also excited to see me! I can see that mom is a little tensed. She wants to give me the best party ever! I know that everything will be ok! I'll get to celebrate with all my cousins and mom's & dad's friends..& of course, I'll meet Jollibee! Isnt that cool! I promise to post a pic of Jollibee and me!
I have packed my bags with diapers, cereals & cheerios! Mom says she will give me taho for breakfast. Dad says he will feed me pandesal!
I'm all smiles now! I am just really really happy! You can see that in the picture right?
I hope Mom gives an update of whats happening back home! If she does not, you know she's just real busy..
Got to catch that plane! (and the party..)
With all my love,
B
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Monday, March 27, 2006
overseas mom
I dont feel so good!
My sis (who volunteered to be a party organizer) and I are having a feud!
I can imagine the stress of H when he was here & I was in the Philippines organizing our wedding 2 years ago. This time, for my B's birthday, both of us just have to trust my sister and my inlaws. From the caterer to the venue to etc. And its difficult for me to let go!
I am too demanding according to my sis. She's too easy to please!!!Oh well!!
Gusto ko ng umuwi para ayusin ang party ng anak ko!
My sis (who volunteered to be a party organizer) and I are having a feud!
I can imagine the stress of H when he was here & I was in the Philippines organizing our wedding 2 years ago. This time, for my B's birthday, both of us just have to trust my sister and my inlaws. From the caterer to the venue to etc. And its difficult for me to let go!
I am too demanding according to my sis. She's too easy to please!!!Oh well!!
Gusto ko ng umuwi para ayusin ang party ng anak ko!
Saturday, March 25, 2006
Last minute shopping at Destin for some pasalubong & pamporma!
Also, I already packed my 2 piece swimsuit which I bought last fall. Ang bruho kong mister wag daw akong magbathing suit sa birthday ng anak ko. Aalis daw ang mga bisita. Ang mokong na yun!
Pero allowed daw ako mag 2 piece sa boracay. kasi kaming 2 lang at walang kakilala. tama ba naman yun!
Gotta pack my bags!
Also, I already packed my 2 piece swimsuit which I bought last fall. Ang bruho kong mister wag daw akong magbathing suit sa birthday ng anak ko. Aalis daw ang mga bisita. Ang mokong na yun!
Pero allowed daw ako mag 2 piece sa boracay. kasi kaming 2 lang at walang kakilala. tama ba naman yun!
Gotta pack my bags!
Friday, March 24, 2006
They came in at 1100 am & how i jumped for joy! Alleluia !
Last week, when I started tracking the whereabouts of our passports, it amazed me that they can really tell where your passport was that time. Like, it was now at NC, that it was being processed at DC, that they will mail it today, that etc. It was so accurate. The online tracking showed also it will arrive on the 25th. And still it came a day earlier!
Woohoo...geez...we're really really really excited! Im going to see my dad again, now a real proud lolo ! Yehey!!
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Wednesday, March 22, 2006
Gardening 101
Our lawn needs our help! H is in charge of the outside (maintain the lawn and the garage) while I am the boss inside (hmm..that seems unfair as I cook, clean, take care of B, laundry & blog..) I decided to take out B this time so he'll be under H's watch!
So we went to Lowe's and we thought that there was a party! Everyone was buying the same thing, mulch, plants, fertilizer, decorative items for the lawn, etc. Each has a home project to do. And this is ours..
H had to unload all 70 bags of mulch as B & I watched! I helped him by collecting the plastic and dumping it at at empty box. B's contribution, well, he donated his pamper's box.
Then, we scattered all the mulch in the flowerbed! I felt throwing away $2, literally!
In a few hours, the mulch was almost gone! We were worried that we still have to go back and get some more as we have not covered the flowerbed on the left side of the house. But the bags were just alright. H was good in his estimate. Otherwise, he might have to carry some more bags (work it out , H)
B was cooperative as he did not have any tantrums! He just enjoyed watching us ! Thank God!
Here's the boss posing for a job well done!
Till our next home improvement project! Next in line, Mom's flower garden!
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
I was tagged
Ive been tagged by Day weeks ago & Meeya days ago. Its nice to reminisce because pretty soon, my son will be a year old! How time flies, has it really been a year?
How did you feel during those first few days after the birth?
I felt super sleep deprived! Baby came out at 825am and all I wanted was to sleep after that! Thank God I was able to catch a few winks. My son's birth happened on the day my neighbor/friend had her daughter christened. It was perfect timing for our guests from Jacksonville as they dont have to drive again to see me. But when guests already started arriving at the hospital, it looked like we were having a party! It was a delight to see them but really all I wanted was to sleep that time!
I also felt overwhelmed! Having a baby absolutely changed my life! Cliche but very true!
How were you emotionally?
I was scared! Ive never seen a tiny baby before and to think he's all mine! How on earth can I take cake of him? I kept on praying and praying! And my, how he loves to cry! Then I remember the books Ive read , the videos Ive watched. Babies do cry because that is the only way they communicate. Also, like me, he's adjusting to his whole new world! With that in mind, I became ok.
Is there anything you wish people had told you about the postpartum period?
I am so blessed that I have friends who offered support and understanding at those times. And of course, Hubs took a month off from his work just to be with me. (He said he will help me with baby but then what he finished was his woodproject - a buffet table for my formal dining. Hmp! ) After giving birth, I think I was real crazy that time. I would cry easily and associate everything with my baby! A scene on the tv with a baby would make me cry. I stayed away from wathing baby story because I would shed buckets of tears afterwards. Slicing onions made me cry. ( I was still in charge of my kitchen you know. )
How long do you plan to breastfeed?
I wanted to breastfeed for 6 months but (thank God) I am still nursing at 11 months. A year is the maximum for me, I think.
Do you have any advice for getting through those first weeks of breastfeeding?
Yes! Breast is best! God designed our breasts to nurture our babies the best nourishment! Always remember the law of supply and demand. The more you nurse, the more milk you'll produce! Plus you have to really relax and let go of chores for the 1st week. It can get really painful but you'll get through it!
Oh, and the pain comes from your contracting uterus, engorged breasts and lack of sleep! They all happen at the same time! But again, you'll get through it!
Was there any stress between you and your husband over the baby?
None, thank God. I think it made our bond stronger. We know that we only have each other being miles away from our families. Yes we do have close friends nearby (our loving Pinoy neighbors na mga kumare at kumpare na ngayon) but that is still different.
Looking back, we knew we both wanted it that way! A tough lesson to learn but it made us bond really well.
Let's talk about your body, Did things get totally rearranged?
Not much. (I still have extra 10 pounds to lose though but I dont want to pressure myself. Im still nursing so I can still eat lots- lame excuse) In fact I had a hard time gaining weight when I was pregnant which made my ob-gyn worried. Praise God, my son was 6 lbs 4.9 oz and just right for me to have a vaginal delivery. But I like the big breasts now ( and so does Hubs- thats why I cant give up breastfeeding hehe)
Care to share how much you weighed before and how much now?
I weighed 125lbs when I gave birth, now I weigh 110lbs, still hoping to go back to 100lbs -my pre pregnancy weight!
What advice-or comfort-can you offer other new moms about their weight ?
It took us so long to gain those pounds. It might take a little longer to shed it off. But in time it'll come. Dont focus on that at the moment!
How important is it for you to have a work identity?
Hmmm..There are times I do miss working! I miss it in the sense that I love being a team player and a leader. I have worked for a decade in the banking industry and I can say I became what I wanted to be! Now that I am a stay at home mom (which is absolutely my choice) I say "Wow! This is a very tough job! I would consider it harder than having a career at the bank ." (which makes me want to go back to work..er.heheheh..)
At times when I do miss working, one look at my baby, a smile & a hug from him, I would totally forget about it! H is such a good provider that I am able to stay at home to enjoy and cherish baby's growing moments!
Was your baby a lot of fun right from the start?
Not at first. You really cant think straight when you lack sleep! And you can see that your house is a mess. That you havent done the laundry for a week. And that you will fold it afterwards. And that breastfeeding hurts terribly..
Oh, and he did gave me a scare when he had jaundice on the 4th day! The nurse at the hospital can easily tell from our faces that we were 1st time parents as it was written all over our face. We had to stay at the hospital for a night and that scared me again!
I remember looking at him on that 1st week and noticed how he loves to smile when he's asleep. And he does not smile when he's up (he cries of course silly) That smile on the 1st week...hmm..sulit naman pala !
What's your baby like now?
He is the best baby in the whole wide world! (Proud mama ba?) He has a routine which he follows strictly. He's so excited exploring, trying his best to walk and taste everything as he puts into his mouth whatever he grabs into. He eats the stroller, the leaves of my plant inside the house, the cd's..the blinds, everything! Even our slippers..nay!!
And he's very excited for his 1st birthday party and his 1st plane ride..that is kung darating ang passport--sorry meeya, i still cant shake it off my system!
So there, thanks Day & Meeya!
Im tagging Marie and Apple. Hope you'll have fun filling it out as much as I had.
How did you feel during those first few days after the birth?
I felt super sleep deprived! Baby came out at 825am and all I wanted was to sleep after that! Thank God I was able to catch a few winks. My son's birth happened on the day my neighbor/friend had her daughter christened. It was perfect timing for our guests from Jacksonville as they dont have to drive again to see me. But when guests already started arriving at the hospital, it looked like we were having a party! It was a delight to see them but really all I wanted was to sleep that time!
I also felt overwhelmed! Having a baby absolutely changed my life! Cliche but very true!
How were you emotionally?
I was scared! Ive never seen a tiny baby before and to think he's all mine! How on earth can I take cake of him? I kept on praying and praying! And my, how he loves to cry! Then I remember the books Ive read , the videos Ive watched. Babies do cry because that is the only way they communicate. Also, like me, he's adjusting to his whole new world! With that in mind, I became ok.
Is there anything you wish people had told you about the postpartum period?
I am so blessed that I have friends who offered support and understanding at those times. And of course, Hubs took a month off from his work just to be with me. (He said he will help me with baby but then what he finished was his woodproject - a buffet table for my formal dining. Hmp! ) After giving birth, I think I was real crazy that time. I would cry easily and associate everything with my baby! A scene on the tv with a baby would make me cry. I stayed away from wathing baby story because I would shed buckets of tears afterwards. Slicing onions made me cry. ( I was still in charge of my kitchen you know. )
How long do you plan to breastfeed?
I wanted to breastfeed for 6 months but (thank God) I am still nursing at 11 months. A year is the maximum for me, I think.
Do you have any advice for getting through those first weeks of breastfeeding?
Yes! Breast is best! God designed our breasts to nurture our babies the best nourishment! Always remember the law of supply and demand. The more you nurse, the more milk you'll produce! Plus you have to really relax and let go of chores for the 1st week. It can get really painful but you'll get through it!
Oh, and the pain comes from your contracting uterus, engorged breasts and lack of sleep! They all happen at the same time! But again, you'll get through it!
Was there any stress between you and your husband over the baby?
None, thank God. I think it made our bond stronger. We know that we only have each other being miles away from our families. Yes we do have close friends nearby (our loving Pinoy neighbors na mga kumare at kumpare na ngayon) but that is still different.
Looking back, we knew we both wanted it that way! A tough lesson to learn but it made us bond really well.
Let's talk about your body, Did things get totally rearranged?
Not much. (I still have extra 10 pounds to lose though but I dont want to pressure myself. Im still nursing so I can still eat lots- lame excuse) In fact I had a hard time gaining weight when I was pregnant which made my ob-gyn worried. Praise God, my son was 6 lbs 4.9 oz and just right for me to have a vaginal delivery. But I like the big breasts now ( and so does Hubs- thats why I cant give up breastfeeding hehe)
Care to share how much you weighed before and how much now?
I weighed 125lbs when I gave birth, now I weigh 110lbs, still hoping to go back to 100lbs -my pre pregnancy weight!
What advice-or comfort-can you offer other new moms about their weight ?
It took us so long to gain those pounds. It might take a little longer to shed it off. But in time it'll come. Dont focus on that at the moment!
How important is it for you to have a work identity?
Hmmm..There are times I do miss working! I miss it in the sense that I love being a team player and a leader. I have worked for a decade in the banking industry and I can say I became what I wanted to be! Now that I am a stay at home mom (which is absolutely my choice) I say "Wow! This is a very tough job! I would consider it harder than having a career at the bank ." (which makes me want to go back to work..er.heheheh..)
At times when I do miss working, one look at my baby, a smile & a hug from him, I would totally forget about it! H is such a good provider that I am able to stay at home to enjoy and cherish baby's growing moments!
Was your baby a lot of fun right from the start?
Not at first. You really cant think straight when you lack sleep! And you can see that your house is a mess. That you havent done the laundry for a week. And that you will fold it afterwards. And that breastfeeding hurts terribly..
Oh, and he did gave me a scare when he had jaundice on the 4th day! The nurse at the hospital can easily tell from our faces that we were 1st time parents as it was written all over our face. We had to stay at the hospital for a night and that scared me again!
I remember looking at him on that 1st week and noticed how he loves to smile when he's asleep. And he does not smile when he's up (he cries of course silly) That smile on the 1st week...hmm..sulit naman pala !
What's your baby like now?
He is the best baby in the whole wide world! (Proud mama ba?) He has a routine which he follows strictly. He's so excited exploring, trying his best to walk and taste everything as he puts into his mouth whatever he grabs into. He eats the stroller, the leaves of my plant inside the house, the cd's..the blinds, everything! Even our slippers..nay!!
And he's very excited for his 1st birthday party and his 1st plane ride..that is kung darating ang passport--sorry meeya, i still cant shake it off my system!
So there, thanks Day & Meeya!
Im tagging Marie and Apple. Hope you'll have fun filling it out as much as I had.
Saturday, March 18, 2006
Intertwined
I just love the thought that my son has a playmate J. J stays with us on weekdays. I just cant say no to our friend E who works Tues-Fridays. J's nanny is now in the Philippines for a short vacation. She might even attend our birthday celebration. J will be us with us only until next week.
Now I can imagine how it is taking care of twins. Doubly hard!! It's a good thing they both love to play and does not fight at all! Funny, they even kiss each other. And they both dont like playing with I, the only princess in our neighborhood!!
Imagine me having to feed them breakfast at the same time. Luckily, J's routine is the same as B. They get to play afterwards and watch a little tv. J is really glued on the tv set while my little one is more interested in his toys and starts to wander and explore! They get their morning naps and afternoon naps at the same time. And their poop time (ooopppss..excuse me) is also at the same time . Is their body intertwined or what?
Here's a picture of me having a great time!
That great time lasted for 2 hours..as I's mom had to leave for an hour. She entrusted I under my care! --(walang bayad huh kasi mag kumare eh..hehe)
Yaikks, three babies and one mom on the house..I have to sign out now!
(hmm..i just remembered olive's blog ..i should pay her a visit one time)
Now I can imagine how it is taking care of twins. Doubly hard!! It's a good thing they both love to play and does not fight at all! Funny, they even kiss each other. And they both dont like playing with I, the only princess in our neighborhood!!
Imagine me having to feed them breakfast at the same time. Luckily, J's routine is the same as B. They get to play afterwards and watch a little tv. J is really glued on the tv set while my little one is more interested in his toys and starts to wander and explore! They get their morning naps and afternoon naps at the same time. And their poop time (ooopppss..excuse me) is also at the same time . Is their body intertwined or what?
Here's a picture of me having a great time!
That great time lasted for 2 hours..as I's mom had to leave for an hour. She entrusted I under my care! --(walang bayad huh kasi mag kumare eh..hehe)
Yaikks, three babies and one mom on the house..I have to sign out now!
(hmm..i just remembered olive's blog ..i should pay her a visit one time)
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